West Bend Woman Gets Two Years For Sex with Minor
Fair?
A 32-year-old West Bend woman was sentenced today to two years in prison for having sex with a 15-year-old boy and then violating conditions of her bail by repeatedly text-messaging him.
Jaime M. Foss also was ordered by Washington County Circuit Judge David C. Resheske to serve 13 years of extended supervision when she is released from prison.
Foss was charged March 20 with having sex with the boy several times at her West Bend home.
She pleaded guilty in September to one count of second-degree sexual assault of a child and two counts of bail jumping. In exchange for the guilty pleas, two additional sexual assault counts and five bail-jumping counts were dismissed.
I guess it depends on the definition of fair.
Would a man have gotten that sentence if the gender roles were reversed. Hell NO…
Having said that, I do think boys are different than girls… So I’m not sure that in my opinion the crimes would be “equal”...
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 01, 2008 at 2325 hrs
I’m with xx. Sexist though it may be, this is not the same crime as an adult male having sex with a minor girl.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 0912 hrs
Because, of course, 15 year old girls only care about ponies, facebook and getting married, while 15 year old boys actually enjoy and pursue sexual encounters.
An adult having sex with a child is just as confusing and damaging when the child is a boy, as it is when the child is a girl. The sexist attempts to justify treating girls like precious, delicate flowers and boys like studs in waiting are absurd. Frankly, the confusion and damage when we’re talking about a 15 year old kid, boy or girl, is probably pretty minimal. But it should still be prohibited, and it should be punished equally regardless of the sex of the victim.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1153 hrs
I would have a hard time making an argument either way. In other words I wouldn’t know what the right answer is.
I would say however that I would treat the situation different if it was my daughter rather than my son.
That being said I can’t tell Jason he is wrong.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1233 hrs
An adult having sex with a child is just as confusing and damaging when the child is a boy, as it is when the child is a girl.
I don’t think thats universal. I imagine there are many different situations, many different factors at play.
I think thats the real problem with situations like this is that nothing is universal and the specifics of what happened and how do make a different (in my opinion). For that reason I guess its a good thing we have judges who hopefully can look at each situation/conviction uniquely and assign a proper punishment. I rarely subscribe to “one size fits all” justice. I do believe in fairness, but fairness in and of itself is so subjective. Who’s to say what 2 crimes are “identical” when surely there is NO such thing as 2 identical crimes.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1416 hrs
I think a 15-yr-old girl is just about as likely as a 15-yr-old boy to pursue sexual encounters. That being said, I think the minimum sentence for a 32-yr-old man/woman convicted of having sex with a 15-yr-old boy/girl should be 5 years. Some children will be affected more adversely by such experiences. In those cases, the sentence should be correspondingly greater.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1437 hrs
“In exchange for the guilty pleas, two additional sexual assault counts and five bail-jumping counts were dismissed.”
Two years seems a little light for all this. At the bare minimum - I’d like to see three years so the boy is 18 when she gets out, since she will obviously be contacting him again.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1559 hrs
Interesting. Most judges sit through entire cases before rendering a sentencing judgement. Some here are ready to state what they think bare minimums should be after reading a brief quotation from a newspaper story.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 1652 hrs
I think a 15-yr-old girl is just about as likely as a 15-yr-old boy to pursue sexual encounters.
Very good point. I would say more so in the case of an older adult. Which would make for an argument that the woman in this situation should get a longer sentence.I’m still staying on the fence though
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 02, 2008 at 2307 hrs
What did DA Martens recommend? Was it more or less then the judge?
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 03, 2008 at 1008 hrs
Her mug shot is definitely respectable. And they met at a church, so she’s a woman of values.
Seriously though, she wasn’t in a position of authority. She doesn’t appear to be in a position to physically intimidate him. And nobody was making him spend time with her.
The first time the kid reported that they had sex, he told the police that he had a condom in his pocket. According to his own statement, each time they had sex, he took off her clothes first. Clearly a reluctant participant here. One could practically argue that he was directing the activity.
This comment thread sums up pretty well what I bet most guys are thinking. I’m tired of people pretending that teenagers bear no culpability for their own behavior. This kid knew exactly what he was doing, and he’d still be doing it if not for someone else noticing their behavior around each other.
I’m not condoning her behavior, but this could have ended any time he wanted it to. The situation is very different than one in which the genders are reversed. A 32-year-old man is almost certainly in a position to physically intimidate a 15-year-old girl, which will always cause individuals to question her consent. His mere presence can be construed as threatening without him ever uttering a word that would support that assertion.
As for the woman, she doesn’t need jail time half as much as she needs counseling.
Posted by Recess Supervisor on December 03, 2008 at 1352 hrs
She is pretty cute. Forget jail. let’s buy her a present.
Seriously though, good point about the physical intimidation aspect of a grown man versus a teenage girl. Hadn’t thought of that. I think there are a number of sets of circumstances a relationship like this could arise under, and most of them are negative, so it should continue to be prohibited. But I worry that these kind of cases are taking resources and attention away from genuine pedophilles who molest pre-pubescent children.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 03, 2008 at 1643 hrs
Ive read all the comments and this case bothers me. Jaime was my best friend in high school, she would never do anything intentionally to harm a persons position mentally or physically no matter the age. Why would she be attracted to such a young boy? Was he mature for his age? What was going through her mind, her life, to think that was ok? I beleive she honestly has regrets and is truely sorry for her misconduct. Through reading up on the articles she clearly did not force him, to me he seemed infatuated with her. Now her being the adult in the situation should have put up the stop sign…why didnt she? She is a beautiful person inside and out and I hope that God sees her through this. Someone mentioned if the roles were reversed and it was a man and a 15 year old girl it would be different. I have to agree but it is a proven fact men are more intimidating to young girls, young boys are into young sexy women. My pre teen has friends and they think Im hot, do I pursue that? Hell no! My man is a man, Im very into that like us young beautiful women should be. Im throwing up my thoughts and they are all over the map right now. Bottom line…Jaime is a good woman, shes had a long life being only 32 and I wish her well, I hope she gets the counseling she needs and I pray for her family as well. Jaime and I havent spoke for several years but I will always hold her close to my heart. I just want the bloggers to know she isnt a woman who needs jail time, she didnt rape him, he initiated her, wrong or right she isnt a sex offender to me. I think two years is not fair. One year in jail is well enough to be critical to her thoughts and well being, a punishment should be given, jail…not so sure. I would never think to let a young boy pursue me with the consequence of “sex offender” being my label. Like I said, she had misjudgement and I dont think she seeks out young boys, it was a situation she didnt control, it got out of hand but i know she didnt want to have any harm done to this boy.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 04, 2008 at 0026 hrs
I was a teacher who had nothing but compassion for my students. i was placed in a situation that destroyed my career because of my own child abuse and not understanding my boundaries in this situation. I was in the person’s family, which was abusive, for nearly 5 years and I truly thought I could fix him and them. I was so wrong and misguided in my intentions. he was sexually aggressive from the start and I always assumed that he was just being stupid. He would tell me that he wanted to be with someone my age. I never took him seriously. He even showed me a very graphic porn video, which I told to his parents. One day, I was placed in a situation, that I did not want, and found him all over me. When I told him to stop he said he wasn’t even close to being done with me yet. That day I lost me and knew my life would never be the same.
I was assessed and it was determined that I was nieve and trusting and I had no idea how teenage boys think. I got treatment instead of jail. It was by far the blessing I needed in this situation. So you know, this same person had an underage sexual relationship with a 44 year old woman and stole guns from his parents. He was all over in the news and paper. Yet, the mom was allowed to say it was me who did this to him. He lied in his statement and as an adult I had no mercy with the courts. So, don’t think that all women are after these teen boys. Everyone wants to believe the worst, but they never know the true story. As I found out thru therapy, boys are very sexually aggressive and know exactly what they want.I learned a very hard lesson but my life is finally at peace. The woman he was involved with got 1 year in federal prison. She lost everything for this kid. Her job, husband, almost her daughter and respect of the community. My message to you is that don’t think these teens are always innocent victims, as the news always portrays. He now has 4 felony accounts against him.Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on December 04, 2008 at 2347 hrs
2 Years is nothing to correct the mind of this freak woman. I would say at least 10.
Posted by Fairings on December 19, 2008 at 1245 hrs
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