I Love My Wife

It occurs to me that such a statement seems a bit taboo in our current culture.  Honestly, I don’t know why.  Is it because it somehow demeans her by somehow denying her independence if a man loves her?  If it because it’s not masculine for a man to be in love?  Is it because men are afraid of appearing whipped if they show their love? 

I don’t care. 

There is a club of men out there who unabashedly love their wives.  I count myself in that club. 

I love my wife.  I love everything about her.  Those of you married men who don’t love your wives or don’t show your love… you’re morons.  Real men love their wives and aren’t ashamed to say it and show it. 

No, I’m not in trouble   Just a passing thought… 

1. hear, hear!!  I love my wife too and I’ll take it a step further.  I like my wife.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1308 hrs




2. seems a bit taboo in our current culture

   hmm… I’m not sure if its taboo per se…

   I see 3 scenarios why it might appear to be taboo, but yet there are other reasons.

   -We know statistically that over 50% of marriages end in divorce.  As such, thats not to say those people don’t “love” each other, but clearly half of the marriages out there have enough issues that declaring “I love you” probably falls low priority to the other gripes and complaints of the day. (not saying it should, but it does).  In my own observations (yes, I DO ask people/friends/etc questions like this) many people if asked would say “yes I care about my wife” and that is what they translate to “love” also, but like Joe says, “like” maybe not so much and they certainly aren’t “happy” in their relationships which seems to preclude a desire to outwardly profess their love.  So I don’t think its “taboo”, rather it is truly the exception rather than the rule that people are truly happy in their marriage enough to profess it.

   -scenario 2.  Just because someone doesn’t announce to the world via mass-media outlets (tv, internet, radio, newspaper, etc) that they love their wife doesn’t mean they aren’t truly in love and happy with their wife.  Perhaps it rather means that they feel love doesn’t need to be announced to anyone besides to 2 involved in its exchage to be validified.

   -scenario 3…  The truly “macho-man” who would never admit that he loves someone because its a detriment to his independence.  I think this is actually mostly an urban myth.  Perhaps celebrities and professional athletes more than anyone else falls in this category, but they are a fraction of 1 percent of the population.  Statistically they are non-existant.  The feminist movement however likely up-plays this mythical segment of the population at every opportunity. 

   At the end of the day, I think love is just plain “hard to find”.  its not taboo.  Its just very few people really have it, and those that do REALLY have it, only a portion of those feel compelled in the emotional warmth of such a pleasant feeling to announce it.  Others bask in its pleasant comforting embrace without much thought to public notification.  Expressing it through words or actions to their significant other is enough.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1405 hrs




3. Wow what brought this on?  Whatever it was I think it’s wonderful and I’m speaking as a woman.  If more men would express themselves as you did there would be less strife at home.  2 yrs. ago I left a “loveless” marriage.  It takes a very wise man to actually show their love and affection for their wife.  What goes around comes around from your spouse in so many positive ways.  A woman who knows she’s loved and feels loved is a beautiful thing.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1409 hrs




4. If more men and women would express themselves as you did there would be less strife at home.

   
   

   It takes a very wise woman to actually show their love and affection for their husband

   A man who knows he’s loved and feels loved is a beautiful thing.

   I’m quite certain the failures of relationships and benefits of expressions of love are equally shared among the sexes.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1420 hrs




5. I don’t know if it is taboo, but in my experience it certainly draws attention when you publicly declare love for your wife.  I was a bit taken aback at how many people thought it was “so great” when I made a public proclamation about how much I love my wife on our last anniversary.  Seemed a bit much on the praise front for me simply stating a fact, especially on a day kinda dedicated to the fact that you love your spouse.  So I get where Owen is going.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1433 hrs




6. “We know statistically that over 50% of marriages end in divorce.”

   This is one of those “we all know its true” deals that ain’t true. 

   http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/d/divorce.htm

   http://www.divorcereform.org/nyt05.html

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1529 hrs




7. My wife is awesome. How could I have gotten so lucky to find a woman who likes to watch Star Trek - and loves absolutely loves watching football and cheering for the Packers, Brewers and Bucks. Plus able to put up with me to boot.

   To say I love my my wife isn’t even getting started!

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1624 hrs




8. What taboo?  Seems you’ve built a straw-man in order to make some kind of cultural argument. whatever.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1624 hrs




9. I agree…which was one reason it was so nice to see Obama make time to take his old lady out for dinner and a Broadway show.

   Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1638 hrs




10. Its nice you have this forum in which to make such a public announcement.  Well done on both counts (having the forum and making the announcement). Anyone ever renew their vows?  Been thinking of this for a couple years, and just wondering about the process.

    Posted by Mike on July 22, 2009 at 1638 hrs




11. Another wonderful ‘life lessons’ you learned from your father.  Makes me proud to have you as my son. Love you.

    Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1831 hrs




12. “hear, hear!!  I love my wife too and I’ll take it a step further.  I like my wife.”

    I have it on good authority though that your wife is particularly awesome.

    Sweet post, Owen.

    Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 1832 hrs




13. I think I read that on the bumper of J.B. Van Hollen’s van.

    Posted by Josh Schroeder on July 22, 2009 at 1929 hrs




14. Awwwwwwwwwwww

    Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 2016 hrs




15. Doc’s found a tumor in my right lung last year.Surgery,chemo,lots of pain.Looked bad.Things got better.Would never have made it with out my wife and my daughter.Yeah,no,hell yeah,I love them,and I will tell that to anyone,loudly.God was good to me when he let me be with these 2.

    Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 22, 2009 at 2120 hrs




16. Did you hear about the Norwegian that loved his wife so much he almost told her?

    Yes, I’m married to him. 

    He can’t say it, but he’ll turn up the radio when Randy Travis sings, “I’ll Love You Forever and Ever, Amen.” He puts up with my expensive hobby (horses). And…I’m German both sides 100%. 

    Posted by (JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on July 23, 2009 at 1018 hrs




17. On the other side of the fence, I LOVE MY HUSBAND!  He is amazing, wise, loving, and a pillar of stability and strength.

    Posted by GAMazy on July 23, 2009 at 1033 hrs




18. Just wandering around the internet trying to avoid my book-work when I came across this. Funny because I’ve often wanted to make a bumper sticker that says “I love my wife”. About an hour ago I was getting some things at the local deli. and saw a man with a t-shirt that said of all things “I love my wife”. As Yogi Berra said “It’s de javu all over again” finding this site. I truly love my wife and let her know that I do all the time. I’m an old fart of 69. I lost my first wife to cancer 22 years ago & my present wife lost her first husband to cancer 25 years ago. We married 11 years ago. Our children from our first marriage’s get along great & we’re one big happy family. I also intend to make a bumper sticker that says “My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world” because to me she is! Life is too short to not enjoy it with someone you love.

    Posted by Tom Niebler on July 25, 2009 at 1338 hrs